You can’t be everything at once, focus on one thing and make it count.

Jasmine was a girl I knew had great potential. Then, in secondary school, she had so many qualities that convinced me of how successful she was going to become in the nearest future. Oh!! she was such a go-getter. After our secondary school, I found her doing digital marketing, I wasn’t surprised she took up such a skill immediately, even when most of us, her mates were yet to figure out whether we wanted to further school or learn skills like hair-dressing or fashion design. It wasn’t long before I saw Jasmine hop into telemarketing from digital marketing, she immediately switched to programming. Waw, I was really amazed at how much she could do.

The following year, I got admission into the uni. There, I saw my dear friend jasmine, she said she had become a public speaker. Amazed I was, but then I couldn’t help but get worried for her. I knew how determined and resourceful she could be, but then, the whole energy was not being channeled properly. It wasn’t up to six months before I saw my dear friend doing comedy skits. I knew her to be everything, a comedian was not near any of them. Well, I reacted to her posts to encourage her, but still, I become more worried. Less than one year, my dear friend posted on her WhatsApp status, that she had become a model. Outrightly, I knew I needed to talk with her.

I enquired why she was trying to do so many things at the same time, and what really was the driving force. My friend broke down and told me how she just wanted to do great things, make a name like others and be her own boss. Eventually, she got confused about which of her potentials to harness, since she was gifted with more than one, but obviously not perfect in any.

Jasmine is you, yes you, trying to do so many things yet perfect at non, Trying to be everywhere yet nowhere.

One problem with people who have multiple potentials is that they are not able to diligently focus on one or two of their potentials and grow them. The interest to try everything and know everything is what births “jack of all trades, master of non”.

Be known for one thing and become a master in it.

Take life one day at a time, and learn to maximize each of your potentials one after the other. Trying to be and do several things at the same time is as good as gathering wood that you will definitely not need, so why the load? You will only succeed when you are able to focus on a particular thing, Groom, and grow in it. Ever seen a man who is into so many things? He never gets far in any of them, as he would if he had focused on a few.

If you want to grow, go far and succeed in life, you must have an identity, and you cannot have that by wearing multiple hats at once. When you try out one potential, ensure you have given it your best before you pivot. Stop confusing your helpers when they come. Stop confusing the people that follow you. Stand firm for one thing and become known for it. That’s the strength of an achiever.

Just Start, Stay Consistent and you will definitely win.

Cheers.

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At first,  she said I wasn’t competent for the job and called me a rookie and underaged. Days ran into weeks and she began heaping all her duties on me. You can say I was doubling both as the admin, and assistant at the same time. Literally, I was carrying out her duties for her. You may want to ask, what then was she doing? Well, Dish orders and passing files!

Eventually, the rookie became a pro.  I got so good at my job that I didn’t need her to pass files to me, I went to get them myself. she soon began to like me, Obviously because she saw me as a relief of her duties while she still received her salary and still answered the admin title.

Because I was competent enough,  she would skip work for days while I fill in for her. I carried on with my duties diligently without minding her laxity to work. Every one of my colleagues that needed her attention always came to me instead of her.

One day,  I overheard them saying that they preferred working with me to Her. Gradually she began to lose her relevance. The big news broke two months after. I emerged as the new administrator and branch manager. It wasn’t a surprise to anyone except my boss, who was either going to work as the front desk officer or quit her job.

What happened to her? Well, obviously she lost her relevance while letting another carry out her duties for her. She felt I was a newbie in the system, but never thought I will learn and grow. She didn’t consider what I must have known before coming into the system and my adaptive skills. She only saw my presence as an opportunity to hide from work.

This story is illustrative in our various workplaces. Some of us think because we have worked in a workplace or an industry for a long time, we can’t be outshined. Listen, no one is the monopoly of excellence and as such, don’t think you are irreplaceable. The company doesn’t care about you as a person, they care only about the value you are able to bring to the table.

At every given time and duty, show yourself worthy and deserving. Don’t sleep on your skills, if you do, you may lose your relevance to those that are awake and consistent with the grind. Some of us, have PAs. Your PA can replace you if you let them do what you are supposed to do, simply because you are paying them to assist you. Assist you, fine, but don’t heap so many duties or responsibilities on them, such that they can render you irrelevant.

There are people whose minds are actively ready to tap and harness. Look down on anyone at your own peril. Keep developing, keep emerging, and don’t give room for negligence. Whatever you are called to do, put in your best, not your least. Last note; When you stop growing, you lose relevance and when you lose relevance, life becomes worthless. Don’t let yourself die while alive!!!

So While you’re alive, keep living, keep reading, and keep improving.

Stay Relevant.!

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That particular road was so busy that it was as though the riders were in a racing competition,
coupled with the bad condition of the road. Every man was trying to beat time.

I noticed an old man fell with his bike just by the corner of the road.
I truly feared for his life because of the speed of the riders near him.
I wanted to ask our driver to stop so we could help,
but the thought of other passengers yelling at me didn’t let me.
I guess they were in a haste too.

Well, we passed him as he struggled to get himself off the road
and probably continue the journey. Just as we passed,
every other vehicle and user of that road passed him.
Everyone seemed to be in a haste, probably to catch up with something or somewhere.

While we journeyed, a few things battled in my head.
Will he be able to rise and continue his journey?
What if he couldn’t rise up? Will he get help?

There are a few lessons I learnt from that incident.
In the journey of life, you are mostly on your own.
People are not interested in what pushed you down,
what made you give up, or how you intend to rise again.
What they are interested in is “did you rise or not?”

People are only interested in what will help them succeed,
maybe a few will pause to help you.
but you really can’t bank on it.

When people help you out of your trying times and push you up the ladder,
don’t trivialize it. They did what only a few will do,
for it takes one who understands and leaves for humanity to help you rise.

No matter how difficult life pushes you, push it back.
You lose when you give up. You win when you persevere.

History is made by those who stood strong throughout the test of time.
So no matter how tough or brutal it gets, keep your eyes on the goal.

Champions don’t count how many times they fall.
They only count gathered experiences.
If they succeed, once every ten attempts,
They know how many times they need to try
To succeed a hundred times.

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You’re allowed to leave a city that has dimmed your light instead of making you shine brighter, you’re allowed to pack all your bags and start over somewhere else, and you’re allowed to redefine the meaning of your life.

You’re allowed to quit the job you hate even if the world tells you not to and you’re allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and to the rest of your life.

You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling, and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing has changed.

You’re allowed to let toxic friends go, you’re allowed to surround yourself with love and people who encourage and nurture you. You’re allowed to pick the kind of energy you need in your life.

You’re allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes, and you’re allowed to be kind to yourself. You’re allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see.

You’re allowed to set yourself free from your own expectations.

We sometimes look at leaving as a bad thing or associate it with giving up or quitting, but sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Leaving allows you to change directions, to start over, to rediscover yourself and the world. Leaving sometimes saves you from staying stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people.

Leaving opens a new door for change, growth, opportunities, and redemption.

You always have the choice to leave until you find where you belong and what makes you happy.
You’re even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself.

You are allowed to leave

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